Question

My boyfriend and I have been having sex for the past year. We both felt guilty about it, but at the same time, we are only human. Recently, we have repented of that sin and have asked God for forgiveness. We know we are forgiven and loved. We are planning to get married very soon and we can't imagine not being together.

My question is: Will the Lord bless our marriage even though we had premarital sex? Will He bless us now that we have repented?


Answer

Repentance means to change the direction of your life. It involves a change in your attitude toward your sin and a change in your behavior. Thus, when you say that you have repented of fornication, you are both saying that you've stopped having sex and that you no longer think it is excusable. The last has me a bit concerned because "we are only human" is a very lame excuse for sin. All people are only human -- that doesn't make sin reasonable.

When God forgives, He treats the sin as if has never happened. "What shall I say? He has both spoken to me, and He Himself has done it. I shall walk carefully all my years in the bitterness of my soul. O Lord, by these things men live; and in all these things is the life of my spirit; so You will restore me and make me live. Indeed it was for my own peace that I had great bitterness; but You have lovingly delivered my soul from the pit of corruption, for You have cast all my sins behind Your back" (Isaiah 38:15-17).