Question

Hello,

I am in a relationship with my boyfriend. We have been together for one year. I just want to say that I know he and I are committing sins by touching, and in the past we had sexual intercourse. I told him about my relationship with God and how much it matters to me, but he always seems to tempt me. I want to let him go, but I don't know how, or if I should, because I love him, but he doesn't care about my Father's law. What should I do?


Answer

When you are dating someone, you are finding out whether that person is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with and whether you want that person helping you raise your children. With those two things in mind, do you really think that this boy would make a good husband and a good father?

He has already talked you into having sex. Even though you've told him that it was wrong and that you want to do things God's way, he continues to encourage you back into bed with him. That tells me that he is more focused on what he wants than being pleasing to you or to God.

I gather that he isn't interested in living a Christian life. Is that what you want for your future, a man who will be discouraging you from worshiping God? Is that how you want your children raised?

The problem is that the longer you stay with him, the more likely he is going to have sex with you again. He knows he has worn down your defenses before and he knows he getting close again. "Do not be deceived: "Bad company corrupts good morals"" (I Corinthians 15:33).

Stop focusing on the immediate pleasures of having him as a boyfriend and start looking at what the future would probably be like with him. If he isn't a keeper (and it sure doesn't sound like he is), then the sooner you both acknowledge it, the better off both of you will be. Waiting will just make things worse.