Question

I have a boyfriend and he likes to play with and touch my breasts. We already talked about this issue a month ago and even sometimes daily. Sometimes I end up letting him do what he wants to do even though I don't want it because I don't want him to be disappointed at me. Whenever I say no or even talk about this issue with him, he gets disappointed and he ignores me. It hurts. That's why I just end up letting him do what he wants. and I don't want to talk about this topic with him anymore because I know how he would react. I've been trying to get back myself to God because I know what we did is a sin. What should I do?


Answer

Your boyfriend is trying to manipulate you for his own pleasure. He certainly isn't doing this for you. His ultimate aim is to have sex with you, but to get there he tries to get you to compromise on your limits. Each time he hopes he can get you to go a little bit further.

You need to have more respect for yourself and respect for God. So what if he becomes disappointed when you say "no?" What he is asking for doesn't belong to him. If that means he will switch to another girl, then that is his choice and it proves that he is not a boyfriend worth having. Having no boyfriend is better than having a boyfriend who just uses you.

Thank you so much, I badly needed to hear this.