Question:
Hi,
I hope you are well. I’m reaching out because I honestly don’t have any other trusted adult with whom I can talk about sensitive matters like this, and it’s really embarrassing for me. Since I started puberty, my vaginal lips just kept growing longer and longer, and I’m 22 now. I’m feeling increasingly self-conscious about it, and I’m hoping you can offer some advice. I realize this might be a sensitive topic, but I trust your experience, and I would really appreciate your perspective.
For as long as I can remember, I’ve had longer labia and thicker pubic hair than most of my peers or the images I see in the media. While I know that everybody is different, I can’t help but feel like my body is unlike anything I’ve seen. My lips are so much longer than any I’ve seen, whether in person or images, and that’s made me feel out of place. It sometimes feels like I have more male anatomy, rather than female, and this has caused a lot of confusion and discomfort for me. It’s challenging because sometimes my side bits will stick to the sides of my thighs or even slip out of my clothing, which can be really uncomfortable and, to be honest, embarrassing.
Beyond the physical discomfort, I’ve also struggled with hygiene issues. I often feel that it’s harder to keep the area clean due to the size and shape of my labia, especially during warmer weather or after exercise. Sometimes I feel self-conscious about odors or irritation, and it’s been a real source of anxiety for me. I’ve tried various products, such as wipes and sprays, but I’m not always sure if I’m using them correctly or if there’s something more I should be doing to ensure I stay fresh and clean.
One situation that highlights these insecurities is when I have to be in a locker room or around public nudity. I can’t help but feel exposed and self-conscious, especially when I notice that my body doesn’t look like most others. I find myself constantly adjusting or trying to make myself smaller, and it’s exhausting to feel like I stand out in such an intimate setting. These moments make me wonder if there’s something wrong with me or if I should be doing something to alleviate these issues.
I’m reaching out because I’d love to hear any advice you might have on how to feel more comfortable and confident in my body. Are there ways to manage discomfort and prevent any wardrobe issues, such as items slipping out? What do you recommend for maintaining hygiene, particularly in areas like the labia, to prevent irritation or unpleasant odors? Long term, should I consider surgery or something to make them smaller? Also, when it comes to locker rooms or situations where there’s public nudity, do you have any tips for handling those feelings without feeling so exposed or ashamed?
I have no other place to seek Christian advice on this, so I thank you for being so willing to help. It means a great deal to me to know that I have someone I can reach out to with these deeply personal concerns. I’m just so sad and grossed out by this whole thing, and want to be able to do something to feel better.
I appreciate you taking the time to read this and offer any advice you have. It would mean a great deal to me, as I strive to feel more at ease with myself and these concerns.
Thank you so much.
Answer:
The condition is called labial hypertrophy. A good source of information on this condition is “What Is Labia Minora Hypertrophy?” and “Causes of a Large Labia and How to Manage It.” Since this is bothering you, it is recommended that you consult a gynecologist to discuss the proper treatment for your condition.