Am I not a virgin because my boyfriend made me touch his penis?

Last updated on November 1, 2020


My boyfriend made me touch his penis, he did not touch my vagina, and we broke up. Am I still considered a virgin?


I’m glad you broke up with him. Any guy who uses force to get his way doesn’t deserve a girlfriend.

While the exposure of his genitals was wrong and sexual touching is wrong (I Corinthians 7:1), neither is considered sex and the definition of virginity is that you have no experience in having sex.

Sin is progressive. Because it is too easy to claim “nothing happened” this time, people are willing to go further. What started as a forced touching of his private areas could have easily escalated into worse behaviors. You did right to dump him.