Question:
Hi,
I am 20 years old and I never started my period. I took the quiz on your website and it said I am at Tanner stage 4.8.
I never told anyone this including my parents and always faked having a period because I was ashamed about never getting it. Not having a period makes me feel less of a woman and I am puzzled why this has not happened to me. All my friends have their period and talk about period problems which make me feel left out. I would do anything to get my period as I really want kids one day and dreamt of motherhood ever since I was a little girl. I am not athletic never played any sports. I am 5.4 and around 125 pounds. I do not know if this has anything to do with it.
This is a little personal but despite not having any period I tried inserting tampons in my vagina but they never go in and I can only fit the tip of my finger no matter how hard I try. It’s not painful and I am not tense while doing this but for some reason, my vagina seems really narrow and short.
Should I tell my parents? And what do you think is wrong with me? I feel so broken and that I am lacking a defining factor of being a woman.
Answer:
I’m puzzled why you’ve never mentioned this to your mother. But what you need to do is schedule an appointment with a gynecologist. The generally rule is that if a woman misses her period for more than three months, she needs to see a doctor to find out what is wrong. You are well past the point when you should have seen your periods, so something is wrong and it will take a doctor to figure out what is the problem.