I feel the need to prove girls are better than boys, but I also want a strong husband

Last updated on October 24, 2020


If I’m in Tanner stage 3.7, will I grow again? I’m 5’4.

When I see boys, which is rarely as I live in a country where we study in separate schools — i.e. there is a separate school for boys and girls — so when I encounter boys I have a strong desire to prove that girls are better than boys and to fight with them. I’m more of a feminist then. But I have always fantasized about my ideal husband to be a sexist — someone who says that women are weak and should be taken care of. Is it okay for girls my age to feel that way? Moreover, in my house, I’m treated like a child and also enjoy being treated like one. I dislike being treated like a grownup.


If you are in the third Tanner stage then you are still growing. You don’t stop growing until you reach stage 5.

It sounds as if you are still trying to figure out how to relate with boys, so your mixed bag of feelings toward them is understandable. It won’t do work in the long run. You are going to have to realize that to find the man of your dreams, you have to be consistent between your behaviors and thoughts.

Neither girls nor boys are better. Each approaches life a bit differently, but they work best when a boy and girl work together toward goals.