Last updated on November 1, 2020
I currently have a question about my older sister who is a little bit older than I am. My sister found out that she is pregnant by her boyfriend, and I am the only person she has told besides her boyfriend. She asked for advice and told me that she is very stressed because she doesn’t have money for a kid at all, is suppose to start college in the fall, and can’t afford a child at this moment. She believes a child will stop her from starting college and will be short on money. She says that’s her boyfriend, who is a Jehovah’s Witness, wants her to not keep it. She is a Christian but isn’t currently attending church, and she doesn’t know what to do.
I advised her to keep it because, as a Christian, I can not give any other advice. I also mentioned to her how about two months ago, she was getting close to God and praying. She had told her boyfriend that she didn’t want to have sexual relations anymore, but he didn’t agree with this, and they continued to have sex. As a result, she became distant from God.
What advice would you give to her in regards to her current situation? She says her boyfriend told her to go to the abortion clinic in a few days. He keeps asking her if she is going.
I’m praying about this. Thank you! God Bless.
This will be difficult to get your sister to accept because her decisions are not being made based on what God tells us. While she considers herself to be a Christian, she is not living the life of a Christian. “Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God” (I Corinthians 6:9-10). She tried to follow God and live in the world at the same time, and it doesn’t work.
Her boyfriend is also a hypocrite (someone who puts on an act). He claims to be a Jehovah’s Witness. While I disagree with this denomination’s teachings, it remains that they do not approve of fornication or abortion. My guess is that he is desperately trying to cover up his sins. When it gets out that he has been committing fornication, he will likely be kicked out of the Jehovah’s Witnesses. Very likely, he is also trying to avoid responsibility. He knows that if your sister keeps the child, he will be financially responsible for the child for the next 18+ years. His statements and behavior tell me that he has no intention of marrying your sister.
Killing an innocent child because your sister sinned is not the way to fix the problem. If she cannot afford to raise the child, then she should talk with counselors about having the child put up for adoption. It seems a reasonable choice since her boyfriend will not assume responsibility for his sins. Often agencies that arrange for a newborn’s adoption will also arrange to cover the costs of having medical care during the pregnancy and the cost of delivering the child.