Why did I get this odd feeling when I got involved in an erotic chat with my boyfriend?

Last updated on October 26, 2020



I have a couple of questions.

First: Recently, when I was texting my boyfriend, we edged on erotic chat. It was the first time for me. I realized a burning sensation on my clitoris. I tried rubbing it, and then it eased away. Is it OK or is it something serious? I am a virgin and I did not even masturbate before. It was the first time I rubbed my clitoris on a sexual basis.

Second: Randomly, just randomly, sometimes I feel some fluid discharge (in all probability clear fluid, as I have not seen the fluid) from my vagina. I am pretty sure it is neither urine nor menses. It makes my underclothing wet and I feel uncomfortable. It is not dependent on whether I am sexually aroused or not. What is this discharge? Is it normal? Is it something harmful?

I hope you are able to understand my problems. Thank you.


Rubbing your clitoris is masturbation for a female. The problem lies in the cause. “But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints; neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks. For this you know, that no fornicator, unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience. Therefore do not be partakers with them” (Ephesians 5:3-7). Erotic talk or dirty talk is not proper for a Christian to be involved in. It is a discussion about something that is sinful since you and your boyfriend are not married. Such talk creates a lust to do what Christians should not be involved in and lust what is wrong is sinful.

The lining of the vagina secretes a fluid that is much like the mucus produced in your nose. It serves numerous functions:

  • It keeps the lining of the vagina soft and moist
  • It traps dust and germs that might enter the vagina and slowly pushes them toward the entrance where they can be washed away.
  • When a woman is sexually aroused, excess fluid is produced to provide lubrication for sexual intercourse.

Normal vaginal fluids will range from clear and slippery to thick and whitish, depending on what part of the menstrual cycle you are currently experiencing. They should have very little odor and you should not experience any itching or burning feelings in or around your vagina.

The amount of fluid you produce does increase when you are sexually aroused, but the amount also changes in a reflection of your hormone levels, which changes constantly. What you are experiencing is not unusual and is one reason many women use panty liners to absorb any discharges.